Narrowing the field
Here is what I think just doesn't make sense about the Jewish world, or the Jewish dating world. As Jews we are such a minority, less than 2% of the population. If you take what percentage of those are Orthodox it becomes even tinier. You would think then, that once someone Orthodox Jews would all be able to date each other.
Yet, somehow there are so many categories and subcategories within being Orthodox that we just need to keep making a smaller and smaller group of ppl that we could even think about dating...without even considering personality, etc.
I think its a problem and the categories, while yes, meaning different ideological beliefs, are more than a bit ridiculous.
posted by another frum blog @ 8:46 PM
2 Comments:
Agree 100% percent. Its pretty ridiculous. I would say, forget about the divisions and subdivions. Date whomever. As long as you're both Jewish, you'll find a way to get around the other stuff. "Mixed marriages" are becoming more and more common. Personality is the most important thing.
As per your last post - don't stress. My first kiss wasn't until 21, and first BF not until 24. Do what you believe. If you want to stay SN because that's what you believe in, great. If not - also ok. Don't worry if you're not 'good at it.' Trust yourself. We get 'good at it' with time, and no guy is going to be put off if you don't have a bunch of experience.
thanks for your thoughts and encouragment :)
I think for me at least the prob. is not knowing for sure if i want to stay shomer bc I believe in it or at this points bc its become part of who I am and what ppl expect of me. bc there is a big difference between those two reasons, I just need to somehow figure out which one is the real one.
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